Shortly after finding out that I was pregnant with my son, I did something that I said I would never do. I looked into daycare costs. At the time, I lived over 2,000 miles from family and I had no other income to rely on. Despite the fact that I had always pictured myself as a stay-at-home mom, I had to work.
Looking at daycare, even if it was in the home of a loving Tutu, and imagining myself working long hours, spending limited time with my baby was heartbreaking. It wasn’t something I wanted to do but I didn’t feel that I had any other choice.
I had to support myself and my baby.
When my parents offered for me to move back to California and live with them rent free, I accepted for one reason and one reason only – I wanted to be home with my son. I didn’t do it for the financial help, I did it so that I could be the one to take care of my son.
My goal was to stay home for my son’s first year, at least.
I never would have imagined that so many people would take issue with this. I am consistently met with questions of why I don’t want to work or some other less polite variation of the question.
Are you kidding me?!? I would love to work! I love to work. (Yes, yes, being a stay-at-home mom is most certainly “work” but I am using the word in the way in which people mean it, in exchange for monetary pay.) I miss going to a job, being recognized for my hard work and I miss getting paid!
Trust me, I don’t stay home with my son because I don’t want to work.
It’s not because I’m lazy or lack structure, either (also, things I’ve been told).
- I am a stay-at-home mom because I’ve never met a mom with adult children who says she wishes she had worked more.
- I am a stay-at-home mom because time goes by so fast.
- I am a stay-at-home mom because his hugs, kisses and smiles are better than any paycheck I’ve ever gotten.
- I am a stay-at-home mom because I recognize that it is a gift that not every mother has been given.
I am a stay-at-home mom because it’s the best job I’ve ever had!
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