I really enjoyed Real Moms Talk Relationships in the month of March. I think my biggest takeaway by far is that a lot of moms struggle with maintaining, cultivating and finding relationships!
But we need relationships. As human beings, it is in our nature to love and be loved (and I don’t just mean in the romantic sense!). We are wired for it. So, even as busy moms, I think it’s important that we don’t neglect our relationships.
I also think we should be open to new relationships. I know for some of us that sounds exhausting. I said “open to”, not that we need to run out and ask every mom on the playground for her number or social media handles.
Here are some tips that I’ve learned through hearing from the awesome mamas in this series:
- Be Intentional – Being a mom is busy. In 2016, being human is busy! If we don’t intentionally carve out time to invest in relationships then it’s not going to happen. This goes for our relationships with our kids, too. Set aside time to call a friend, schedule a date night, go ahead and go to that girls night out you sort of want to go to but kind of don’t want to take off your yoga pants for. Make time for your relationships.
- Reach Out – I know, I know, your friends are just as busy as you are. Maybe busier. I get it. But that doesn’t mean that they don’t want or need a little friend time, too. Sometimes it takes awhile to actually connect but don’t let that keep you from reaching out. I mean, don’t be a stalker but I think you get what I’m saying – don’t be afraid to reach out.
- Know Your Season – Relationships don’t always look the same from one season to the next… and that’s ok. With a baby, I don’t have the same freedom that I had in the past to invest in relationships or that I may have in the future as my son gets older. Giving him my best means that I simply can’t have the same types of relationships I had in the past and I may have to take a step back from relationships that once took priority. And that’s ok.
This month, we will be trying something new and covering multiple topics. Next week, we start off with Mommy Wars!
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