One thing that I was not prepared for as I stepped into motherhood was how it would change my relationships. I had no idea that it could be so lonely. I mean, before I was a mom I felt like everyone was a mom but me. I’m in the mom club now, how could I feel alone?
Relationships can be difficult to navigate, maintain and invest in. For anyone, not just moms.
I think motherhood just has its own unique challenges when it comes to navigating relationships. I know, for me, I feel like I’m in a constant war within myself. A war of wanting friends (maybe even give a crack at romance again someday) and being totally consumed (ok, maybe obsessed) with my baby.
If we are not intentionally looking beyond the things that fill our day to day lives, we can easily neglect other things and people – even if they are important to us. Anything outside of our daily routine becomes mentally exhausting.
In theory, I would love to get out. Go to lunch with a friend. Maybe even go to a movie theater again someday but then I start thinking about how that would require me to wear something other than yoga pants. And I’d have to coordinate schedules with my mom for babysitting.
What if the baby is fussy that day? What if I’m fussy that day? Then I think I could get together with a friend with our babies. But wait… do I still need to take off my yoga pants? And then I have to put the baby in the car and that car seat is so heavy.
I think we all have our own version of how we talk ourselves out of investing in relationships and, yet, we all need and desire them. Healthy relationships make us better people and better people make better mommies.
How about you? How have relationships changed for you since becoming a mom? Do you take time for your relationships (other than your kids)?
This post is a part of the Real Moms Talk series. We will be talking relationships all month!