How to Balance the Blog Life and Mom Life

How to Balance the Blog Life and Mom Life
I have blogged off and on for several years but never anything too serious, or serious at all. When I was 38 weeks pregnant, I decided to pick up blogging again and this time I meant business!

Even though I had blogged before, the only thing I really did was write and occasionally share on social media. So, really, over the past 8 months I’ve been learning the blog thing and the mom thing simultaneously.

Neither is an easy task.

If you want to blog consistently, monetize and/or increase traffic then it takes a lot of time, attention and care. And being a mom… well that takes everything you’ve got!

So, how do you balance blog life and mom life? (And any blogger will tell you it is a life.)

I won’t pretend even for a second that I have this figured out but I have learned a few things that help me in this balancing act.

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How to Balance the Blog Life and Mom Life:

  1. Do what works. If you want someone to tell you to wake up at the crack of dawn, make breakfast, have coffee, shower, put makeup on, read your Bible and write all before your little one(s) wake up… I am not your girl. I don’t do any of those things. I mean, I do them (except the crack of dawn one) just not at the wee hours of the morning. Though, my routine may be more relaxed than a lot of other moms, or it may start later, I still have one. If you want to accomplish anything of significance, having a schedule is a must but the most important part of a schedule isn’t how great it looks like on paper, it’s that it works. Waking up early doesn’t work for me. As of right now, my son and I co-sleep (I know… gasp!). While he will go down alone in the bed and sleep perfectly fine for hours, once I decide to go to bed there is no escaping. If I wake up before him and try to get stuff done, he wakes immediately. Then he’s cranky and it’s  a whole ordeal and nothing gets done anyhow.  I’ve read so many blog posts telling me to wake up early and do x,y, and z but, realistically, it doesn’t work. I don’t know anything about your household, so I would never tell you what time to wake up and go to bed or anything else for that matter. Only you can know what works for you. So, create a schedule that fits your life, something that will work. Write it down and stick to it!
  2. Make lists. I love lists with all of my heart. I’m one of those people that adds stuff to my list that I’ve already done, just so I can cross them off. Lists make me happy. You may not be a list person but making lists will help you maintain balance. Lists will help keep you on track. I think this is especially important considering that almost everything we do as bloggers is on the internet. The internet is a wonderful place but it can also eat up two hours in what seems like two minutes. If I don’t keep lists, my time is easily wasted. I keep a list with two columns “now” and “later”. I write all of my daily tasks down in the “now” column and as other things pop up, I jot them down in the “later”.  I make sure to complete my “now” before moving on to the “later”. If I don’t get to a “later”, it simply moves to a “now” for the next day.
  3. Put your phone down. This is one I’m seriously working on. I could literally work on blog stuff all day long. There is always something to be done and many can be done from my phone. There are certain times that I need to walk away from my phone so that I don’t get distracted from spending quality time with my son or even a simple mommy task like putting his laundry away.
  4. Multi-task when possible. Ok, so this might seem like a contradiction to number 3 but it’s not. I promise. There are certain times when multi-tasking blogging and momming (I know, totally not a word) works. Determine what those tasks are and go with it. For example, some blog group threads that I participate in are tasks I can do while my son is happily playing alone (and by “alone” I mean as long as some part of me is touching some part of him).
  5. Prioritize. I love writing. I love blogging. I could easily lock myself away all day and work on my blog and freelance projects. As much as I love it, though, it is not my top priority. My son is. One of the things I love about the blog life is that I can earn a living from it and stay home with my son. But if it’s taking all of my time and attention that really doesn’t matter. When I notice that blogging is taking priority over my son, I know adjustments need to be made. The scale needs some tipping, so to speak. Also, I have other priorities besides blogging. Being aware of these priorities, helps me make decisions that will keep my life in balance.

How do you balance being the blog life and mom life?

52 thoughts on “How to Balance the Blog Life and Mom Life

  1. Jessica February 15, 2016 / 9:21 pm

    Love this and yes so true! I try to unit portage some of these and really helps

    • inezbayardo February 16, 2016 / 11:29 am

      It’s not easy but we can do it!! Thanks so much for reading, Jessica!!

  2. Ali February 16, 2016 / 2:37 am

    I love these practical tips! It took me sooo long to find a routine that fit me and my family. And then it changed a couple of times as they moved through different stages. Still, there is nothing better than a good routine!

    • inezbayardo February 16, 2016 / 11:35 am

      Yes, that is one thing about routine with little ones… it changes a lot. So, maybe it’s so not routine. haha. Flexibility could probably be added to this list as well. Thanks for reading, Ali.

  3. Amber February 16, 2016 / 4:48 pm

    Good on you for finding and knowing what works for YOU! 🙂

    I do a lot of stuff from my phone while I’m nursing my littlest. We also co-sleep and she won’t go down alone so I try to do stuff in bed…but that usually ends with a phone being dropped on my face :-/ eh, better mine than hers! Haha

    • inezbayardo February 16, 2016 / 5:01 pm

      Hahaha.. yeah, I do stuff on my phone, too, after my son falls asleep nursing and won’t let go!!

  4. Emily February 16, 2016 / 5:19 pm

    Love the tips!! Figuring what can be Multitasker and what needs full attention is key. And knowing your priorities is number one!

    • inezbayardo February 18, 2016 / 3:47 pm

      Yes, priorities is number one! Thanks for reading, Emily!

  5. mary February 16, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    Love these tips! I’m not a mommy yet, but these tips come in handy for busy blogging college students as well. Just need to work on the “putting the phone down” part 🙂

    • inezbayardo February 18, 2016 / 3:46 pm

      Yes, Mary, I think they can apply to balancing blogging with anything really. Putting the phone down is a hard one for so many of us. Good luck!

  6. Jen @ Women Winning Online February 16, 2016 / 9:36 pm

    Great tips Inez! I am like you, I love lists. My lists have lists. If I didn’t have them I don’t know how I would get things done. They also help me get back on track when I fall down the social media rabbit hole. Thanks for the great ideas!

  7. Rebecca February 17, 2016 / 5:11 am

    I like to make a list of what HAS to be done and then what I would like to get done. It keeps me on track throughout the day.
    Figuring out what works best for you is great advice.We are all in different seasons, so you have to give yourself grace to keep your focus on what is most important.

    • inezbayardo February 18, 2016 / 3:48 pm

      Yes, give yourself grace! That’s a great tip, Rebecca. 🙂

  8. Megan February 17, 2016 / 9:44 am

    I love these tips! Sometimes you have to separate work and play and just enjoy life!

    • inezbayardo February 18, 2016 / 3:51 pm

      Great point, Megan! It’s funny how that’s generally the motivation for working from home – enjoying life with our families – and yet we can so easily let work take over. (Sigh)

  9. mary February 17, 2016 / 9:49 am

    Love this! Great tips for busy mommies! Thanks for the info:)

    • inezbayardo February 18, 2016 / 3:51 pm

      Thanks so much for reading, Mary!

  10. Misty Nelson February 17, 2016 / 11:09 am

    Great post! Balance, uggh! Isn’t that the struggle with everything concerning motherhood. Balancing childcare and trying to have time for yourself, make time for your husband, keep your house in check…. and all without feeling the dreaded mom guilt! I love your list of suggestion!

  11. Miranda February 17, 2016 / 5:05 pm

    I also co-sleep, and even though I have started getting up earlier than the kids to get my blog stuff done, there are days when the baby wakes up shortly after I get out of bed, so I totally can relate. Luckily, I have found that if that happens, usually one of the older kids is happy to crawl in and cuddle with her 😉

    And yes, putting your phone down is a must. We blog, but we also have to do life!!!

  12. Helen February 17, 2016 / 5:43 pm

    This is really helpful and practical advice! I love lists too and so I love your idea of writing now and later…I’m going to try it!

  13. Hey, It's Gina February 17, 2016 / 5:59 pm

    Hi Inez, while I probably can’t be considered a new Mom blogger, my daughter is 4, I am a new prek homeschooling Mom blogger. I have so many hats to wear I’m confused, lol! I totally agree on finding what works for you and Iove lists. I will pick up your tip about the now and later collums. Great idea!

    I used to sacrifice my sleep to blog and but I found while the blog was getting done, I wasn’t in the best of shape for those who needed me most. I created a little bedtime routine, which includes a bed time, and I try to stick to it as much as possible.. Honestly, it has added another level of peace to my life. That is how I have found a bit of balance while blogging.

    I wish you the best!
    Gina

  14. Cathy February 18, 2016 / 7:33 am

    What a great list, and great things to keep in mind! It is a balancing act that is for certain! I have given myself one rule-when my kids are present so am I. For me that means my computer is turned off! 🙂
    Cathy

  15. kate February 18, 2016 / 11:41 am

    I’m with you! I can’t get the early morning thing going either. In college and my early years teaching (all before kids) I would wake up early and work out- I LOVED IT! I keep telling myself I’m going to start going to the early CrossFit class to give me a couple hours later in the day with my girls or blogging- but really- I love having a reason to leave the house midday, I love the people I work out with, and I do my best sleeping in the morning! HAHA! Some people wake up with tons of energy and motivation bright and early. I have more energy after my kids go to bed when I know they are down for the night and I won’t be interrupted so I can afford to immerse myself in chores, blogging… or occasionally Netflix!

    • inezbayardo February 20, 2016 / 7:14 pm

      Done! Thanks for letting me know about it!

  16. Susannah February 18, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    This is a great list! Blogging and mommying is HARD!

    • inezbayardo February 19, 2016 / 11:16 pm

      Yes, it is! Thanks for stopping by Susannah!

  17. Jed February 19, 2016 / 5:10 am

    Excellent list! As a busy working daddy to three–soon to be four girls–these are the same tools I use. I also began waking up 1-2 hours earlier in the morning, for that alone time to write. It’s great to hear your back at it!

    • inezbayardo February 19, 2016 / 11:16 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Jed! I am hoping to be able to wake up early soon. Working on getting my son to sleep in his own room. 🙂

  18. Alana February 20, 2016 / 5:37 am

    I love your good tips. I’m a newbie blogger, so I’m learning as I go. But having a plan, and being organized is what is helping me balance and enjoy both, mommy time and blogging time.

    Thank you
    Alana

    • inezbayardo February 20, 2016 / 7:08 pm

      Yes, a plan is so important to getting stuff done. Thanks for stopping by, Alana!

  19. Rhonda Swan March 2, 2016 / 7:57 pm

    It can be hard to strike that balance. I think as a freedom-preneur, I have the ability to teach my daughter to be successful starting at an early age. I love that she can be right beside me in what I do.

    Keep up the good work here and live unstoppable!

    • inezbayardo March 2, 2016 / 9:26 pm

      That is SO true! I love that my son can watch me work but it’s on me to teach him balance and make sure he is ALWAYS the priority. Thanks so much for stopping by!

  20. Frank Priegue March 12, 2016 / 7:25 pm

    I think any mom or dad blogger reading this were nodding their heads in agreement. Parenting is a full-time job,so is blogging. It;s all about balance.

  21. Hil March 20, 2016 / 5:10 pm

    bahahahaha!! “alone, as long as some part of me is touching some part of him” yup I get it! I respond to comments while I pee lol! I do facebook like/comments while breastfeeding. I do pinterest during lunch. Yup multitasking. It’s true though, you could work on stuff all day long so you need to put it down sometimes.

  22. Kristen May 12, 2016 / 11:52 am

    I love this! It is really so hard to balance blogging and mom life but I’m just now starting to get a handle on it. Routine is key, and I totally agree that what other’s do might not be the same as what works for you. I also use the google Keep app for lists and reminders. This is such a great read! Thanks for co-hosting with us for some #mommatime!

  23. Corinne May 12, 2016 / 12:20 pm

    It can definitely be tough to prioritize sometimes, especially when you’re excited about your blog and writing and juggling so many other responsibilities. Thanks for the practical tips! #mommatime

  24. Leah Elwood May 12, 2016 / 12:54 pm

    Oh man. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who could literally, happily work on her blog all day long. If I get really wrapped up in a project I tend to forget to eat, even.
    Reading your description of getting up early and all made me laugh.. because it’s totally me. I’m a total morning person. I love getting things done first thing in the morning. I’m up at 6 am every day of the week blogging until 8 am when my son wakes up.
    I need to work on putting my phone down, too. Since turning off my notifications I’ve been a lot better.. I also have to turn off cellular data while I’m out and about so I don’t constantly check it! It’s really hard.
    Anyway, I loved this. It really is hard to balance both of them!

  25. Laughing Mum May 12, 2016 / 1:15 pm

    omg! this is all so true! I’m obsessed with checking EVERY account EVERY second of EVERY day! I need help lol – fortunately, my kids are pre-teen and teen, so I do have a little more time, but the husband is not so happy haha! great post! #mommatime

  26. Matilda Togiai May 12, 2016 / 2:42 pm

    1. I love lists too! If only to cross things off of them.
    2. I co-slept with ALL my 4 children.
    3. I have to work on putting my phone down too!

    How do I balance life? Hmmm…still trying to figure that one out. But hey, everyone is still alive, house is still standing, and no one has starved (yet). So I think I’m good hehe

  27. Julie Hood May 12, 2016 / 3:32 pm

    Putting down my phone is the hardest one! But it really is all about priorities. At the end of the day, I would rather have spent my time with my little one instead of having all the social media shares and such!

  28. Lauren Gnapi May 12, 2016 / 5:35 pm

    This is a really great post. I have just been blogging for a month now and can already see that it takes a lot of time. And time is hard to have with a 6 month old. Even with great planning, he needs a lot of attention!

  29. Leigh-ann May 12, 2016 / 8:45 pm

    I love this! And I’m totally NOT a morning person either. The whole Mama/blog balance can be tricky!

  30. Cathy May 13, 2016 / 8:28 am

    Love this, especially the putting down the phone part. I need to be more cognizant of this.

  31. Jennifer May 15, 2016 / 3:19 pm

    Very good Ideas, I like the list thing. I have four kids one of whom I have to get on the bus every morning. I need to make lists. lately I have been feeling kind of lost as a blogger, sort of adrift and not really knowing what I’m doing. The schedule thing has been a problem too. Its just once my kids are up, for get it, not getting anything else done, even a shower.

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