I’ve read far too many mommy blogs that make motherhood seem like the pits (or “the” pit) and I’ve vowed not to be one of those bloggers, or mom’s in general.
I love being a mom. I believe that it is a great privilege and a high calling. But, even so, sometimes it’s hard.
Yes, motherhood can be challenging.
And at times, motherhood is overwhelming.
Or at least it is for me. Having this little person that relies on me for everything is, in many ways, quite amazing but it can also be a big weight on my shoulders.
The fact that sometimes he cries (and cries… and cries) and I don’t know what’s wrong can be exhausting.
Also, as a single mom, the responsibility for his physical, emotional and spiritual needs rests almost entirely on my shoulders.
These things overwhelm me. Sometimes to the point of tears.
One day, not too long ago, I cried over $20.
As I laid on my bed having a minor breakdown over the $20 I had lost. I tried to console myself by saying, “you’re just overwhelmed.”
You think?!?! I’m CRYING over $20!
I know I’m overwhelmed.
But how do I stop being overwhelmed?
While there are certainly practical things I could do to deal with this overwhelming feeling, I believe a lot of it is mental.
We become overwhelmed when our have to’s and have not’s start to pile up and they become our main focus.
Our circumstances can stay exactly the same but with a change of mindset, suddenly everything changes.
After I spent some time to myself thinking about why it was that I was so overwhelmed, I decided to write down some reminders – some things to take my mind off of the have to’s and have not’s that were consuming me at the moment.
Here’s what I came up with:
- It won’t always be like this. I will not always be my son’s source of survival. He won’t always freak out every time he thinks I might be thinking about leaving the room. I won’t always rely so heavily on financial help from his father and our families. One day my son will wean. The time will come when he’ll beg me to leave the room (sniff). And soon enough I will bring in more income. The things that currently weigh on me will change. This is just a season.
- I’m not the only one. When we get so focused on our current circumstances, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that we aren’t alone. I’m not the only mom who gets overwhelmed. It’s not my unique set of circumstances; I’m not weak or incapable. I’m human. Every mother feels this way at one time or another.
- I have help. I have a tendency to want to do things myself. To be independent. The fact that I chose to relocate back with my family to receive their help is a miracle in and of itself. I don’t like to ask for help. Something I have to remind myself of is that not everyone has the amount of support that I have, both physically and financially; I have help and I need to use it. I need to lay down my pride and admit that sometimes this mom thing is a little overwhelming and I would love an hour to myself.
- God is on my side. This may be the most important reminder of all. God is for me. He assigned me this task and He believes in me, even when I’m doubting myself and I think everyone else is too!
Though, at times the responsibility of this season overwhelms me, there are many things that I will miss about it. So, instead of being overwhelmed by it, I am choosing to focus on all of the good things. I am choosing to live in the moment and enjoy this season because it will soon be gone.
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