Yesterday, I said that I was going to spend a little time on how to help a woman (or young woman) facing a crisis pregnancy. If you missed it, check it out here.
I think one of the best things you can do for a woman facing this type of pregnancy is to get her to look beyond her present crisis. And one of the best ways to do this is by asking questions.
I was terrified to tell my parents that I was pregnant. Terrified. I remember someone asked me how I thought my parents would feel about having another grandbaby.
I said, “they would be thrilled”.
On a few different occasions, I was asked if my parents would be supportive. Absolutely!
These were not complex questions. But they were real questions. They were questions that brought me back to reality.
The reality that this was not the end of the world. My family would love me, support me and would think the world of my baby.
This was not the worst thing that could happen. In fact, it was the best thing that would ever happen to me. It would one of the best things to ever happen to our family.
This was a good thing. But I needed help to see that. I needed to look past my current state. These questions helped me to realize that everything really would be ok. I wasn’t alone.
If I didn’t have people to talk to, people to get me thinking beyond my crisis there’s not telling what could have happened.
I am not minimizing this type of a crisis in any way. Believe me, I know how difficult it is. But I also know that there’s hope. I know that the heaviness, confusion and despair only lasts for a season.
Your daughter, friend, niece, sister, cousin, neighbor, youth group member… whoever she may be needs you to ask her the questions that will help lift her head from the cloud of doom and into the hope and joy that awaits her.