I’ve been surprised at how many people seem to have a strong aversion to the thought of me having a birth plan.
What’s there to plan? The plan is to have a baby.
Having a baby is the overall goal, the end result.
The plan is how that goal is going to be achieved.
Ok, fine, we could say that the plan is to push. But, I think we all know there is so much more involved than that.
If it were as easy as “just push” there would probably be a lot less fear associated with the thought of “just pushing” something the size of a watermelon out of something a whole lot smaller!
For me, having a plan sets my mind more at ease. I know that I can’t predict exactly how things will go, but there are certain things that are so important to me that I don’t want to leave it up to chance.
Having a plan will get me much closer to having the birth experience I want than not having one will – even if I fall a little short.
I think we would all say that we just want to deliver a healthy baby, that’s a given. But, is there anything else that is extremely important to you?
Next to delivering a healthy baby, some women desperately want minimal pain. Others are deathly afraid of needles.
I don’t want a c-section.
I know that I can’t completely control this, but the facts are that women who receive certain procedures in the labor process (like induction) are more likely to end up with a c-section. So, part of my plan is to stay away from such procedures.
I also, for various reasons, do not want an epidural. In order for this to happen, I need to plan other methods of pain relief. If I don’t, the second that pain picks up, I’ll be begging for that needle!
For you, this may not be a big deal, but I feel so strongly about not having an epidural that I will do whatever it takes to prevent that from happening.
So, I have a plan.
Here’s the bottom line: if there is anything you feel strongly about doing (or not doing) in your birth experience then you need to have a plan. Otherwise, you may walk away feeling disappointed or even as if you failed.
Even if things don’t go exactly as I want, I will know that gave it my best effort.
That’s why I have a plan.