3 Places to Sell Your Baby or Kid Stuff (And Tips on How to Do it Well)

I’m not sure if it’s out of fear of being a hoarder (because I’m pretty sure I could be) or out of necessity but I have sold my son’s baby stuff faster than you can say “Craigslist”. I’ve kept a few favorites in a (very) small bag but other than that… it’s out with the old and in with the new! It’s actually been a great way for me to make some extra cash and keep our storage down to a minimum.

Places to Sell Your Baby or Kid Stuff. Tips on How to Sell Your Stuff Online.

If you are interested in making a little profit on your kids’ stuff there are many options out there. I’ve narrowed my “go to” places down to 3 favorites. Occasionally I’ll go elsewhere but for the most part my stuff sells on one of these three places.

Facebook Buy, Sell, Trade Groups – If you are not in one of these, you need to be. Just do a search on Facebook for your city (or surrounding areas) and “buy sell, trade” or “garage/yard sale”. When I lived in Hawaii, I sold a ton of stuff on the buy, sell, trade group. I have to say, I haven’t had quite as much success here but I still post things on there and have made some sales. Something I have found extremely helpful is in my post I write a meet up location. People are skeptical of going to a stranger’s house. Also, I always write “if you pm me, please let me know in the comments”. Otherwise, messages may go to the filtered box and you could miss out on a sale.

eBay – I love selling stuff on eBay. I especially love the “cha-ching” sound on the app every time I make a sale! I sell a lot of clothes there and other light weight items that can be stuffed into a small flat rate envelope or box. When you are pricing on eBay it’s important to keep three things in mind: 1) shipping costs, 2) the PayPal fee and 3) the eBay fee. (You do not have to pay fees unless your item is sold.) Before I figure out my sale price, though, I type in the item I am selling and I see what others are selling that item (or similar items) for. Then I choose a price that undercuts the other seller(s), even if it’s just by a few cents. I then take this price and I figure out what my profit will be after shipping and fees (I estimate 15% of the selling price for fees). If the profit is worth it to me, I go for it. I always include shipping in my asking price and offer “free” shipping. Another tip for selling on eBay is use as many keywords that will fit into the title box. For example, if I am selling a summer clothes lot I would say something like, “Baby Infant Boy Onesies Shirts Shorts Summer Clothes Lot 3-6 Months”. If I have space, I include brand names as well. I also always include as many pictures as possible. If I’m selling a lot, I take a picture of the whole lot then include individual pictures or pictures grouped by type (i.e. onesies, shorts, etc.)
OfferUp App – This is by far the quickest and easiest of the three, as far as getting a post up. All you do is download the app, use Facebook to start your account and you can be selling in just a couple of minutes. (There is also a web version but I have only used the app.) One of the things I love about this app is that you can see who you are selling to. A couple of months ago I was selling my son’s infant car seat and stroller frame/caddy. The car seat was in excellent condition and the caddy had some wear but still in really good condition. I had several people offer me significantly less than I was asking. Now, I already had a new car seat and stroller so it’s not like I was in dire need of the money. If I wanted, I could have accepted the lower prices. Since I can see the buyers accounts, I went and checked them out. All but one had loads of baby stuff they were selling – including strollers. I knew these buyers were trying to get my stuff for dirt cheap and then they were going to sell it for more. I said “no”. Not that it really matters but if I’m going to drop my price I’d rather do it for a mom who needs the item and can’t afford it. So, this is a feature I really like. Also, when checking out buyers you can see their rating from other sellers. This is pretty cool and helpful.

When using any service to sell stuff, always be clear on your expectations and when meeting up with strangers always use wisdom… and mace, if you need to!

Do you sell your kids’ stuff? If so, where?

 

It’s Perfectly OK to Cry Over Spilled Milk and Other Things I’ve Learned About Breastfeeding

Whoever told us that we shouldn’t cry over spilled milk was obviously a man. Or maybe a woman that never breastfed or maybe she just never pumped. In any case, this person was wrong. Dead wrong. When you are a breastfeeding/pumping mama, it is perfectly ok to cry over spilled milk. I now know this. Here are a few other things I’ve learned along the way over the past year of nursing my son:

Things I've Learned About Breastfeeding

  1. It’s not actually free. While the costs of breastfeeding don’t even come close to the cost of formula feeding, it is not free. There are still things you need to buy and I’m not even talking about a breast pump (which can get pretty pricey, depending on your needs). Until I was pregnant, I had no idea that you had to continue to take prenatal vitamins after giving birth when you’re a nursing mom. I also didn’t know, until my son’s 3 day check up, that nursing moms need to give their babies Vitamin D drops. (My doctor told me I could take Vitamin D myself but I’ve read in some places it’s not the same.) Then there’s the nursing pads, pump, storage bags, etc. Still way cheaper than formula, believe me, but definitely not free.
  2. You could quite possibly eat yourself out of house and home. I had no idea how hungry nursing would make me. No. Idea. This doesn’t exactly help with the whole “you lose weight faster” idea, either. You really need to pay attention to what you’re eating.
  3. The thirst is unquenchable. I also had no idea how thirsty I would be while nursing. It’s insane.
  4. A baby’s saliva can help mom produce milk to fight infection. This is both gross and totally incredible. When nursing a little bit of “backwash” will enter the mom’s body. Her body can then detect infection and adjust her milk to give the baby what she needs to fight it off. I read this in a mom’s facebook group but here is a link to an article I found about it. In that conversation, someone else mentioned the same is true about smelling the baby’s breath. I wasn’t able to find anything online to support that theory but I will say, I was completely obsessed with my son’s breath! So, it totally made sense to me. I still like to get a good sniff in here and there.
  5. A breastfed baby can identify his mother by the smell of her breast milk. I shared in my post on newborns that I’ve heard a baby can smell his mother up to 3 feet away! I find it so amazing, I thought it was worth repeating. A newborn can also tell the difference between her own mother’s milk and someone else’s.
  6. Breast milk changes composition during a feeding. In the beginning of a feeding, the milk is watery but toward the end it is thick and fatty (good reason to finish one side before switching).
  7. You can store breast milk at room temperature for up to 8 hours. I’m not sure I ever really thought about this before having a baby but I probably would have just put breast milk straight in the refrigerator. But you don’t have to! I didn’t pump very often at all but occasionally if little man slept through a feeding (I wouldn’t wake him) I would pump and leave the bottle on my night stand. Here is more information on breast milk storage and handling.
  8. You might feel as if the life is being sucked out of you. When you are nursing a newborn, it can seem as if you are feeding around the clock. You’re sleep deprived and exhausted. I remember in the first few days of my son being born, crying to my mom (and I do mean actually crying), “It’s like he’s sucking the life out of me. Literally.” I can laugh about it now and see how quickly that season passed but at the time it felt extremely overwhelming and never ending.
  9. It hurts. I guess I technically knew this but, really, there is no way to actually know how much it hurts until you do it. Of course, this is just in the beginning. Experts will tell you that it shouldn’t hurt unless something is wrong. I still can’t figure out why they say this. Maybe so more women will do it, I don’t know. Even with a good latch, there’s soreness and possibly engorgement. It can be pretty painful. But it’s only for the first few weeks, which is nothing in comparison to the amount of time and you will be nursing. And the amount of goodness you will be passing down to your baby for a lifetime!
  10. It’s the most amazing thing. Ever. All of the benefits of breastfeeding aside, I would do it again simply because it’s an amazing experience. During pregnancy I was in complete awe of my body and breastfeeding only magnified that. It is absolutely amazing how our bodies are created to sustain this little life, even after birth. Not only that, but it’s amazing how the baby instinctively knows what to do. I will never ever forget how my son worked his way down my chest to nurse for the first time. It completely blew me away. Once I got past the learning curve, the pain and the engorgement – I (slowly) started to appreciate the beauty of breastfeeding. It really is a beautiful thing.

What are some things you’ve learned about breastfeeding?

P.S. If you are a breastfeeding mama or soon to be breastfeeding mama, I wanted to let you know about my discount code for Hannah Grey nursing covers. Each cover can be used as a scarf, poncho, hoodie, car seat canopy or blankie. Check out the cute styles and use “diary20” for 20% off! 

7 First Birthday Gift Ideas

My son recently celebrated his first birthday. (Make sure you read all about his UNO party.) I had considered providing people with some gift suggestions in the invite but, ultimately, decided against it. For not providing any suggestions, except to one person that asked, I was really impressed with how well everyone did picking gifts. There was a perfect mix of necessities and fun stuff!

First Birthday Gift Ideas. One Year Old Toys. Gifts for a One Year Old. First Birthday.

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If you are looking for some gift ideas for a one year old, here are a few that we received and loved… well, really we love them all but I’m not going to bore you with our whole list. I’ll just give you a few highlights.

7 First Birthday Gift Ideas: 

Vtech Fly and Learn Airplane – So, I have two or three brands for toys that I am in love with. Vtech is one of them. I was very happy that my son received this airplane for a couple of reasons, one being that it’s not a large toy. We are quickly running out of space for all his… stuff. This is a great toy that he really enjoys playing with and it’s fairly small.

Vtech Fly and Learn Airplane. Toys for One Year Old. First Birthday Gift Ideas.

Fisher Price See N’ Say The Farmer Says – In the vein of compact toys, this See N’ Say toy is the perfect size… not big! I also like that it has some animals that we don’t cover when we sing Old MacDonald (like a mouse or a goose!).

Fisher Price See N' Say Farmer. Toys for One Year Old. First Birthday Gift.

 

Little Tikes Gas N’ Go Mower – My son is obsessed with lawn mowers, so it’s no wonder that this was a big hit with him. I like this mower over others that I’ve seen because it looks most like an actual lawn mower. Technically, the age on this is 18 months but he still enjoys it. The only thing is I have to help him stand because it is not intended to be a push mower and is a little light. But he is able to walk around (not quite walking yet on his own) with it without my help. He loves pulling the string and hearing the motor. It also comes with a gas can and little balls make a popping sound when you push it. It’s a great toy!

Little Tikes Gas N' Go Mower. Birthday Gifts for One Year Old. First Birthday Toys.

Gazillion Bubble Hurricane Machine – This was actually my gift to my son, I bought it with the intention of using it at his birthday party. I gave it to him on his actual birthday, a few days earlier. I have to say, even after reading the reviews, I was not prepared for how amazing this machine is. Seriously. Ah-mazing. There’s literally a gazillion bubbles.  I recommend getting the 2 Liters Gazillion Bubble Solution, as well. The solution that comes with it will go pretty fast.

Gazillion Bubbles Hurricane Machine. One Year Old Birthday GIfts. Toys for Toddlers. Gift Idea for First Birthday.

Books – I’ve shared before that my son is crazy about his Illustrated Bible for Little Ones but I have to keep a close watch on him because it’s not a board book (and he likes to eat paper). So, I was really happy that he received My Big Handy Bible, which is a board book. It even has a little handle, which is… you guessed it… handy! He also got Wherever You Are My Love Will Find You, which is a really sweet book. I think that books in general are great gift ideas for children of any age.

Wherever You Are My Love Will Find You Book. Gift for Toddlers. First Birthday Gift. Books for Babies. Books for Kids.

Season Pass to a Local Amusement Park – My sister got my son a season pass to the little (I do mean little) local amusement park. It has a few rides, a splash pad, playgrounds…  a perfect outing for little ones! I thought this was a very clever and useful gift. Though there may not be a park like this in your area, there may be something else like a zoo, children’s museum, etc.

Gift Cards & Money – We got two gift cards and even some cash (notice how I switched from “my son” to “we”?). Each of the givers of these gifts gave explanations or apologies for their gifts but there is no explanation or apology needed.  Gift cards and cash are always appreciated! Don’t feel bad if that’s all you have time to get or if you just can’t think of something else to give. Any mama would be grateful.


What’s your favorite gift for a one year old?

3 Summer Staycation Ideas

If I could board a plane for vacation tomorrow or today, actually, I would. But I can’t. There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about booking a plane ticket to Hawaii (I used to live there and miss it every single day). A few weeks ago, as I was daydreaming about my escape to paradise the idea hit me to plan a staycation.

Why couldn’t I just bring a little bit of Hawaii here? 

3 Summer Staycation Ideas

So, I enlisted my sister and very soon we will be taking a Hawaiian vacation staycation (of course, I will be blogging about it). Though, this staycation was inspired by my “home”sickness for Hawaii, it got me thinking about other ideas for staycations. It really is a great option for for families that can’t make the expense or perhaps schedules don’t allow. Or for those of us itching to go anywhere but here!

Here are 3 Summer Staycation Ideas based on popular family vacations but you could easily use your favorite vacation spot or even somewhere you’ve never been but would like to, as inspiration.

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Go Camping  – When I was a kid, camping was a family favorite. It would be fairly easy to replicate a great camping trip, right in your own backyard! Gather all of the camping essentials that you would on a regular camping trip, including a fire pit (or a grill will do if you don’t have one or live in a place that doesn’t permit them). If you don’t have a pool, you can set up a kiddie pool as a “lake”. Go for a hike or nature walk either in your neighborhood or at a nearby park or trail. Do other activities that you would do on a camping trip such as: play outdoor games, sing campfire songs, tell stories and don’t forget the s’mores! If you don’t have a fire pit, you could make a campfire dessert like these campfire cones from Hip2Save.

Campfire Cones. Backyard Camping. Staycation. Camping. Family Fun. Summer Activities. Summer Desserts.

These campfire cones by Hip2Save would be a great addition to your camping styacation.

Go to a Beach House – Turn your house into a beach house! Have everyone sleep in the living or family room, set up a pool (or two) in the back yard, bring in some sand, blow up some beach balls, put up a volleyball net, play games with pool noodles, pull out umbrellas and chairs and just lay out in the sun.

Check out Baby Gizmo for "10 Games You can Play with a Beach Ball".

Check out Baby Gizmo for “10 Games You can Play with a Beach Ball”.

Go to Disneyy – Crank up the Disney music and bring the happiest place on earth home! Get some balloons, rent or borrow a popcorn machine, make some candy or caramel apples (or checkout these Disney copycat recipes), get some Mickey ears, make your own Neverland, Tiki Room, Pirates of the Caribbean or Jedi School. Chances are you have some sort of Disney costumes laying around or you could easily find some. There is so much you can do with this idea!

Don't forget the photos! Check out these photo props from C'mon Get Happy.

Don’t forget the photos! Check out these photo props from C’mon Get Happy.

Where do you think you might like to staycation this summer?

 

This post is part of a blog hop with a few of my mom blogger friends from the Mom Blog Social Media Share group on Facebook. Here are their post titles and sites, if you’d like to “hop around”:

Tassels and Tunics: A Time Saving Summer Fashion Guide for Moms // Living That Mom Life

Baby’s First Summer; How to Make A Family-Friendly Bucket List // So(Lace) in a Small Town

8 Outdoor Party Tips & Tricks // The Cool Mom

DIY UNO Themed Birthday Party

DIY UNO Themed Birthday Party. Baby's First Birthday. Smash Cake. High Chair Banner.

When I was picking a theme for my son’s first birthday party, on Pinterest of course, it came down to a puppy party and an UNO party. I really loved the idea of the puppy party (and still do!) but I thought it might be something to save for a second or third birthday. I also thought an UNO party would be fairly easy and inexpensive to do.

So, UNO it was! 

Before I go on with the details of the party, let me say this… I am not crafty. I have no artistic abilities. I can’t sew. I’m afraid of hot glue guns. And I can’t tie a decent bow to save my life.  Which is why I almost took the route of buying everything on Etsy but I just couldn’t justify the expense.  I guarantee you these ideas are easy.

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Invitations – I found a few ideas for invitation wording and tweaked them a little bit to the way I wanted it. Then I used PicMonkey to create them. Here is an example of my invitation with a couple of tips:
UNO Party. First Birthday. Invitation Example.
Goody Bags – I am so disappointed that this is the one thing I didn’t get a picture of. But for the goody bags, I just bought red paper  bags from the Dollar Tree. Then I put an UNO card that correlated with each child’s age on the front of the bag (i.e. a 2 for 2 year olds, etc.). I had two kids over age 9, so I used wild cards. They seemed to like that. Inside of the goody bags, I put: mini bubbles, sidewalk chalk, mini uno cards, a whistle, a small disk/frisbee and a few pieces of candy.

High Chair Banner – I used an old deck of UNO cards for this (and for the goody bags) and I swiped a piece of ribbon from my sister’s house because she’s crafty and owns ribbon. I took 1’s and Wild cards and taped them to the ribbon with packing tape (yes, packing tape). I taped the ribbon and cards to my son’s high chair. Then I took streamers, two of each color in a pattern (i.e. red, blue, green, yellow, red, blue, green yellow), cut about a foot or so long and folded them in half. I placed them behind four cards, also in a pattern and also taped. It wasn’t anything fancy but it worked out great!
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Back drop – I wanted a backdrop behind the food table, so I used table cloths (one of each color from the Dollar Tree) and had them taped to the ceiling. My cousin who is both tall and a designer helped me hang them. We also placed two bunches of streamers from the ceiling. Then we put a “Happy Birthday” banner, again from the Dollar Tree, in front of the back drop.

Uno Birthday Party. Decorations. Party Backdrop.

Table Decorations – I used table cloths in one of each color for the tables where people sat, black for the food/cake table and the sound system and white for the gift table. Then I sprinkled mini UNO cards on the tables like confetti. On two tables outside where people sat, I placed a deck of UNO cards in the center. These were not only decoration but also for playing. I made a collage a picture collage at Walmart.com and put it in a frame on the food table. On the gift table, I had a sign with some of my son’s stats, firsts, and favorites with the title “It’s been a WILD year”. I made this using PicMonkey as well. I took frames from my son’s room for both the collage and sign.

Uno Party Theme. Decorations. First Birthday Party.

 

It's Been a WILD Year. UNO Party. Baby's Firsts. Baby's Milestones

Baby’s First Year Photo Streamers – I printed out each of my son’s monthly pictures and taped them onto streamers to hang outside where the tables were set up. I cut one streamer from each color and taped three pictures per streamer and let them blow in the wind. They were really simple but cute.

UNO Birthday Party Theme. Decorations. Baby.s First Year Photo Streamers.

Cupcakes & Smash Cake – To help me save money, my sister offered to make the cupcakes and smash cake for the party. Per my request, she made a no sugar added cake with wheat flour for the smash cake. She decorated it with white cream cheese frosting and we put a blue number one candle on top. It was simple but very pretty. And my son loved it! For the party guests, she made cupcakes and frosted them in  the different UNO colors. Then she put the mini UNO cards on top with toothpicks. (Boy, did those mini cards come in handy!)

UNO Birthday Party. Cupcakes. Baby's First Birthday.

 

UNO Themed Birthday Party. Baby's First Birthday. Smash Cake. High Chair Banner.

Baby's First Birthday. UNO Birthday Party. Smash Cake.

Birthday Outfit – I ordered a black UNO shirt from an Etsy shop called Texas Tees Plus and I bought some yellow shorts from Carter’s. I looked into making and printing my own shirt or ordering on Amazon but I went with the shop because it was the cheapest and had great reviews.

UNO Theme First Birthday Party. UNO Shirt.

These are all of the UNO theme elements to the party. I will share later my thoughts and tips on planning a first birthday party which will include the games and activities we had.

Did you do a first birthday party for your little one? Or are you going to?

Luvs Diapers Savings, Rebate & Giveaway (#ShareTheLove)

If you’ve ever had a baby you know that diapers are expensive. And, as far as I can tell, it doesn’t get any cheaper as they grow! This is one reason that I am so excited to share this with you how Luvs, the official diaper of experienced moms, is offering opportunities to save on diapers this month. Don’t have a little one in diapers? You still may want to stick around and find out how you can win an American Express gift card. Yep! Can I get a woot woot?!?!?

This review was made possible by iConnect and Luvs. I was provided compensation to facilitate this post, but all opinions stated are 100% mine.

Luvs Diapers. Savings. Rebate. Giveaway. American Express. Ibotta.

If you are anything like me, you probably love the idea of saving money on diapers but you want to make sure you are putting a quality diaper on your baby’s bottom. And one that isn’t chalk full of harmful chemicals. Am I right? Diapers that are free of chemicals like dioxin (or chlorine) has been top on my priority list since day one.

Luvs diapers have some great features like large stretch tabs, ultra-leakage protection, a money-back guarantee (that’s pretty cool, if you ask me!) and multiple high-value coupon offers. Plus, they are dioxin and latex free.  If you are in the market for low cost, quality diapers that don’t have some of the harsh chemicals you will find in other commercial brands, then Luvs could be a great option for you!

Luvs Box. Diapers. Cost-Effective.

Here is a little more information about the features of Luvs diapers: 

  • The large stretch tabs are refastenable. This makes fastening Luvs Diapers super easy for Moms to change diapers quickly!
  • With Leak Barrier Leg Gathers and a Leakguard Core, Luvs makes life easier for busy Moms by helping to keep leaks in the diaper where they belong, so baby stays dry and comfortable.
  • A contoured shape hugs baby for a great fit, and a cottony material feels soft and gentle on baby’s skin.
  • The Luvs Money Back Guarantee: Luvs feels so strongly that their diapers will keep your baby leak-free that they have guaranteed them! If you aren’t satisfied with the leakage protection of Luvs, they will refund your money.
  • Luvs Diapers are available in sizes newborn through 6, and can be found at mass, discount and grocery stores where baby care products are sold.
  • Luvs is the official diaper of experienced parents.

In the month of June, Luvs is offering a $2 print-at-home coupon through their #ShareTheLuv campaign. Addiontially, they have partnered with Ibotta to offer a limited time $3 rebate on any boxed variety of Luvs Diapers, 54ct. box or larger.

Here’s how you can save:

1. Visit Coupons.com to access a Luvs coupon of $2 off any one diaper pack. Print the coupon at home and use it at any mass, discount or grocery stores where Luvs Diapers are sold. Luvs $2 Print-at-Home Coupon. Diapers. Savings. Cost-effective.

2. Download the free Ibotta app, available on iOS and Android, and search “Luvs” to unlock an exclusive $3 rebate, then:

  • Go shopping for your Luvs Diapers at any participating store.
  • Verify your purchases by scanning product barcodes and submitting a photo of your receipt.
  • Save money and earn cash back! Your $3 cash back rebate will be deposited into your Ibotta account within 48 hours.Ibotta App. Savings. Rebates. Shopping. Luvs

But, wait, there’s more! 

Could you use a little help paying for those diapers this month? Or maybe you just want a new dress.. or makeup (I always want makeup). Don’t need any of those things? How about 100 bucks?!?! Luvs is throwing in a giveaway for us! One lucky winner will get a $100 American Express gift card! Giveway ends on Sunday, June 5 @ 12:00am PST.

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How to Get Better Sleep

 

My mom and I were recently having a conversation about how I really don’t know anything about what I was like as a baby. Except that I was a good sleeper. My mom looked at me and said in a very matter-of-fact way, “You were a really good sleeper.”

I’ve always loved to sleep.

I had a friend who used to say he wished he didn’t need sleep because it was a waste of time. Thanks but no thanks. I need my sleep! Few things make me quite as happy a lying my head on my pillow at night. (sigh)

 

How to Get Better Sleep

 

Unfortunately, I just don’t sleep like I used to anymore.

Let me rephrase that, I don’t sleep as much as I used to. I’m still a pretty good sleeper, though. When I sleep, I sleep. It’s probably a good thing my son and I co-sleep, otherwise, he would probably be left to cry for quite awhile before I would hear him.

Although, I don’t have issues with sleeping once I am sleeping, I do have issues with not going to sleep early enough or taking awhile to unwind when I attempt to go to sleep earlier.

 

Maybe life would be easier if we didn’t need sleep but we do. It’s a crucial part of our health and well-being. And I know I’m not the only that struggles with getting some zzzzzz’s. This is why I am really excited to introduce you to, Casper, a start-up company that is involved in helping to create the perfect night’s sleep with innovative resources and products like their latex foam mattresses.

 

Casper sent me their exclusive better night sleep cards so that I could share one or a few with you. (I’m going to share them all… shhhh.) Also, though I have received these cards to review and share with you, all views and opinions are my own and I have not received compensation.

So, I have to admit, I didn’t really know what to expect when I heard I would be sent some “cards”. Were they going to hypnotize me? I had no idea!

Each card simply has a sleep problem with some advice on how to combat said problem. They’re pretty simple but they have great advice. I have actually struggled with most of these at one time or another,  except maybe Sunday night insomnia (I never even would have thought of that one!). Oh, and noise. I can sleep through anything. Right now, “busy mind” is probably my issue. I feel like when my little one goes down to sleep, the race is on to get stuff done. I’m going to try this advice and get into a pre-bedtime routine. Or maybe I’ll start with getting a bedtime!

I hope you find these cards helpful, as I have.

What’s your sleep problem?

 

Anxiety. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Busy Mind. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Discomfort. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Hunger. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Noise. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Not Tired. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Sunday Night Insomnia. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Temperature. Sleep Problems. How to Get Better Sleep.

Interview with a Real Mom on Postpartum Depression

Real Mom Interview - Postpartum Depression - PPD - Diary of a New Mommy - Real Moms Talk

When I started Real Moms Talk, I knew right away that I wanted to discuss PPD and Baby Blues. What I didn’t know was what an overwhelming response I would get from women wanting to share their stories. Today, we have an interview with Misty Eilar from Adventures As a Wife and Mommy. Misty is talking about her experience with PPD. I am so grateful that Misty was willing to openly share with us! My hope in doing this interview (and others to come) is that women facing postpartum depression, baby blues and other maternal mental health concerns will know that: 1) they are not alone, 2) there is no shame and 3) they can reach out. I hope you will share Misty’s interview with anyone you think it could help. 

Before we get to the interview, I want to share some basic information about PPD:  

It is not uncommon for women to experience feelings of worry, fatigue and sadness after giving birth. In fact, according to the National Institute of Health, about half of mothers are affected by these feelings in the first few days after having a baby (most commonly between days 2 and 5, postpartum). The term for this is Baby Blues and it will generally go away within a couple of weeks. Baby Blues and Postpartum depression (PPD) are not one in the same.  The feelings with PPD are more intense and last much longer. PPD is a clinical depression. Approximately 15% of mothers get PPD each year in the United States alone, according to the Centers for Disease Control. Symptoms of PPD are similar to that of depression but may also include: 

  • Crying more often than usual
  • Feelings of anger
  • Withdrawing from loved ones
  • Extreme worry about your baby or feeling distant from your baby
  • Worrying that you will hurt your baby
  • Feeling guilty about not being a good parent or doubting your ability to care for your baby

(Above information taken from the CDC website.) 

If you are experiencing these symptoms, please contact your healthcare provider.

Real Moms Talk NoviceMommy.comInterview with Misty Eilar: 

  1. Were you diagnosed with postpartum depression? Yes, I was diagnosed at about 5 months postpartum. My husband made me go because he was worried.
  2. What were the symptoms you experienced?  I was sad, depressed, anxious, irritated all the time, and couldn’t handle anything. I noticed my sadness first. 
  3. How long after having your baby did you notice PPD symptoms? I noticed them at about 3 months, but I was dealing with C-Diff at the time and really didn’t think about it much.
  4. Was there a specific event that caused you to seek help? I was finally relatively healthy from C-Diff and was still feeling off for some reason. 
  5. Did you confide in anyone before going seeing a doctor? I confided in my Husband and my friend, Anne.
  6. Did you have any guilt or shame associated with your diagnosis? No not at all. It is somewhat common and I already had Anxiety issues before. 
  7. What did you do to recover? I am on Zoloft and I have people to talk to when I need it.
  8. What advice would you give to a woman that thinks she may have PPD? Please be honest and ask for help. There is nothing to be ashamed of. 
  9. What advice would you give to a woman who has been diagnosed with PPD? Work at getting better. There is no quick fix. If you do take medication, please talk with your doctor before you decide to go off of it. 

Meet Misty: 

Misty Eilar - Adventures as A Wife and Mommy - Real Moms Talk Interview - PPD - Postpartum Depression I am a mommy of a wonderful 15 month old girl named Annabel. My husband Brandon and I are going on our 5th wedding anniversary. I am a stay at home mom and blogger. My main focus of my blog is mommy, DIY and Saving Money. I also do product and book reviews. I don’t do it for the money (I don’t make any). I do it just to spread my love, life and knowledge with everyone.

 

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Why I Don’t Refer to Myself as a Single Mom

 

I can count the number of times I have said the words, “I’m a single mom”. One time when trying to update my Instagram profile with keywords I wrote, “single mom”. Then I immediately deleted it. It just felt wrong. I did an interview once on being a single mom, which I actually was kind of proud of. After that, I thought maybe I should step out more into the “single mom” arena and was going to write a guest post for a single mommy blog. But, when it came down to it, I just didn’t feel right about it.

Now, before I go any further, I want to say there is nothing wrong with women referring to themselves as single moms. I just don’t prefer to do it myself.

 

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This is why…

  • A mom by any other name is still a momMarried moms don’t go around saying “I’m a married mom”. Or engaged moms, “I’m an engaged mom”. If they did, I’m sorry but I would probably giggle. I don’t like to label myself a single mom because my marital status has nothing to do with my  role as “mom”. If I had a husband, I would still be a mom. I would just also be a wife. I don’t want to separate myself from other moms by wearing the “single mom” badge. Because, at the end of the day, we are all moms.
  • I would rather not talk about it. I distinctly remember a conversation I had once at church. Another mom and I were swapping c-section recovery stories. I joked that God must have had mercy on me since I had no one to pull my pants down for me to go the restroom or put me in the shower. At this point, another person who was involved in the conversation, said, “I didn’t know you were a single mother.” Suddenly, this funny conversation turned serious. At least, in my mind, it did. Though, I know that was not at all the intent. I felt bad. I was even a little embarrassed. I feared that this lighthearted conversation would suddenly turn into questions about my situation. I will say, that since then, this person and I have become good friends and she has been thoroughly filled in on my situation. Also, as far as I can recall, no one bombarded me with questions that day at church. But it has happened. A lot. People want to know details. They wonder how I ended up as a single mom, I suppose, especially since I was single throughout my pregnancy. For the most part, though, I don’t want to talk about it. I just want to be a mom, like all the other moms.
  • Every mom has challenges. Sure, there are some challenges to being a single mom but… what mom doesn’t have challenges? Perhaps being “single” is my challenge  but for some women, it’s being married that’s the challenge. Ok, I’m kind of kidding, but kind of not. There are some things that I don’t have to do deal with, like arguing over how much I spend on baby clothes! Also, being the sole person responsible for the day to day care of my son is my life – I just do it. I don’t have the challenge of managing my frustrations over someone else not helping me enough… or at all. Moms with spouses have financial problems, family problems… we all have problems. Being single doesn’t make my life any harder than anyone else’s. It’s just different.
  • It may paint an inaccurate picture of what my life is really like.  I am extremely fortunate. I am able to stay home with my son because my parents have graciously opened their home to us and allow me to do so. I receive child support which covers all of my son’s regular needs. (Also, my son is spoiled by his family, on both sides!) I am able to use whatever income I make through blogging and other things, like selling baby stuff, for my own needs and other extras that come up. While I don’t have a lot of the luxuries I used to have, I most don’t come even close to struggling the way many single moms do. This goes for moral support, too. 
  • In many ways, I don’t feel singleMy marital status box might check off “single” but I don’t feel single. In fact, I frequently refer to the time before I had my son as “when I was single”. I may not be married but I am far from single, as in alone.

I’m not saying I try to hide the fact that I’m a single mom or that I don’t ever reference it, I definitely have and I’m sure I will again.  It’s just not my “thing” – it doesn’t define me.

 

Memorial Day Activities for Kids (of all ages)

For many Americans, Memorial Day marks the beginning of summer. We break out our BBQ’s and, if it’s warm enough, our swimsuits. We spend the day with friends and family, playing games or sports and, of course, we eat. Sadly, this is often the extent of our Memorial Day activities.

For me, this is how I spent Memorial Day for most of my life, until I was twenty six years old. The year prior, one of my brother’s best friends from high school was killed in an insurgent attack while on patrol in Afghanistan. That was one of the most emotional funerals I have ever attended. Knowing that this young (only 27 years old) man had died fighting for my freedom was overwhelming. Seeing his heartbroken parents and sister was almost too much to bear. To this day, I can’t think of him without crying.

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This event changed Memorial Day for me. Forever. 

I still enjoy a Memorial Day picnic but I cannot enjoy the day without paying tribute to Victor and all the other men and women who died while fighting for our country. Now that I am a mom, it is important to me that I teach my son what Memorial Day is actually about. I will show him pictures of his uncle’s friend and, for as long as we live nearby, we will visit the cemetery with our family to pay our respects. If we are not able to visit then we will do other activities.

If you would like to find some activities to do with your children on Memorial Day, here are a few ideas: 

  1. Go to a parade or Memorial Service. Many cities hold Memorial Day parades. This is a fun way to celebrate the day for all members of the family and can be a great conversation starter for you and your kids about what Memorial Day is. You can also attend a memorial service. Many veterans cemetery’s will have services. Also, churches and other non-profit organizations sometimes have memorial services and other Memorial Day events. While we normally go to the cemetery, last year was the first time my family attended the actual service. Since it was a wide open space (the cemetery) it was very kid-friendly. I would have no problem taking my son, who will be one on Memorial Day.
  2. Set up a craft table. If you’re hosting a BBQ, you can set up a craft table with a patriotic theme for the kids, like this super cute sponge flag. Not that crafty? Just set out some coloring pages!

    Check this out at notimeforflashcards.com

    Picture from: No Time for Flash Cards. Visit their site, to see the craft. 

  3. Play Memorial Day games. For older children you can have an internet scavenger hunt where your kids have to search the internet (with supervision) to find answers to questions about Memorial Day. If you have a large group, you could even pair up adults and kids to use smartphones to find the answers. Make it extra fun and award a prize to the winning team. (Candy bars would be an easy and cheap prize!) You could also test your knowledge by taking this online quiz.
  4. Watch an educational video. A really easy, low key way to focus on the meaning of Memorial Day with your kids is to watch an educational video, like the one below.
  5. Sing patriotic songs. Another easy activity is singing some patriotic songs. This is especially great for preschoolers and younger. I realized that my son and I haven’t done any patriotic songs, yet. So, I figured with Memorial Day coming up, this would be the perfect time! I started incorporating “God Bless America” and “You’re a Grand Old Flag” into our music time.  I got a flag to wave while we marched (well, I marched, he can’t even walk). I let him play with the flag, I just kept a good eye on him. He really he loved both songs!

I hope you have a happy Memorial Day and find some time to honor our fallen soldiers. Freedom is not free!